Posted: 21 May 2011 09:24 AM PDT
Kathy Witterick and David Stocker are raising a kid in Toronto without disclosing its sex to anyone except its older siblings and grandparents. Its siblings are boys, but choose whether they wear "girl's" clothes or "boy's" clothes and get to pick their own toys. The parents attribute their childrearing notions to being reared on Free to Be... You and Me. I like the section in the article about bullying: "When faced with inevitable judgment by others, which child stands tall (and sticks up for others) -- the one facing teasing despite desperately trying to fit in, or the one with a strong sense of self and at least two 'go-to' adults who love them unconditionally? Well, I guess you know which one we choose."
"When the baby comes out, even the people who love you the most and know you so intimately, the first question they ask is, 'Is it a girl or a boy?'" says Witterick, bouncing Storm, dressed in a red-fleece jumper, on her lap at the kitchen table.
"If you really want to get to know someone, you don't ask what's between their legs," says Stocker.
The moment a child's sex is announced, so begins the parade of pink and barrage of blue. Tutus and toy trucks aren't far behind. The couple says it only intensifies with age.
"In fact, in not telling the gender of my precious baby, I am saying to the world, 'Please can you just let Storm discover for him/herself what s (he) wants to be?!." Witterick writes in an email.
Parents keep child's gender secret (Thanks, Mom!)
What is wrong with people?
I understand what they are saying here but why ostracize a child like this?
Do they just not realize how utterly cruel and heartless children can be to each other?
Any signs of difference from “the norm” is sought and exploited as these heathens continually try to destroy anything that might pose a threat to their own self of self worth.
All a kid wants is love from their family and acceptance from their peers.
A persons gender is a strong piece of their own sense of self and by removing that cornerstone that the child can build upon is going to be disastrous.
Not only that but they are also robbing that child of a development tool. I don’t think the kid’s ability to stand up for themselves and for what they believe in will be as strong.
Don’t experiment with your children lives. Give them all the tools they need to fight for the lives they want.
Lord knows it is hard enough as it is.