I just could not be any prouder of my
son. I burst with pride and joy just looking at him.
He is a great boy growing into a fine
young man.
He has a kind heart and wants nothing
more than to be liked by his peers.
You see, Boy has never really had a
friend.
I take that back he had a friend once,
back when he was in cub scouts, so they must have been 7or8ish.
They were good pals but then his buddy
dropped him.
So, before that and for the past 7+
years he hasn’t been invited over to a friend’s house, he hasn’t
been invited to spend the night, he doesn’t get phone calls, text
messages, emails or even facebook pokes, he hasn’t even been asked
to “come out to play”. All of his requests for the same have all
been turned down as well. He continually reaches out to his peers to
try and gets some sort of acceptance from them and gets nothing back.
Sometimes he gets hated on but mostly it is just nothing, which can
be so much worse. He has a couple of…I would call them
acquaintances but nothing more beyond that.
So day after day he sits in his room
and plays on his computer.
You see, Boy has a number of strikes
against him .
He has a speech impediment; he didn’t
start talking until he was 4 or 5 and has been working very hard to
make his speech intelligible.
He also has ADHD
And a learning disability
But he also has this huge caring heart.
For instance: He was once suspended from elementary school because he
stood up to a bully that was picking on a little kid. He has a great
imagination and just loves to laugh.
The other day he posted on facebook
that “it was his first soccer game of the
year and he would really appreciate it if someone/anyone would come
out to watch him play”
He didn’t even get a response.
It just breaks my heart on a daily
basis.
Here is this wonderful kid (not
just being biased here, his teachers see it and members of our church
see it) and all he wants to do is be accepted. I just want
to go to his school and violently shake each kid and scream at them
how wonderful he is.
I try to be a friend to him/for him but
there is only so much I can do.
I have to be a parent first.
He really just needs to have someone
his own age to pal around with.
To laugh and experience life as a kid
with. Even to get in trouble with.
I am also afraid that his desire to be
accepted will lead him to a bad place where he will do anything to
just get attention from his peers. He has already shown signs of this
including lending his iPod to a girl he had just met.
I just have no clue what to do.
This breaks my heart. Are there any support type groups for parents with similar issues? Or perhaps encouraging him to expand on one of his talents - art, computer graphics, music? This might lead him to kids that are into the same things. Maybe.
ReplyDeleteHe is very fortunate to have such a caring father. You'll be able to have him continue down the right path with your guidance.
we tried boyscouts. On one campout I allowed him to go without me to "be one of the guys" he ended up texting me at 1am because he was made to sleep by himself in a tent when there were 3+ in other tents.
Deletewe tried local junior lions club but people there have driven him away.
its just so painful to watch.